When Being Selfless Is Selfish

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It’s been about two weeks since I’ve written anything for this blog. That’s the longest I’ve ever gone without posting. For that reason I’d like to apologize.

Initially I’d planned to take 4-5 days, maybe a week tops off of blogging to focus on getting my social life going again. My approach worked. I got my social life going again. Sweet.

Unfortunately, for more than a week after that I’ve procrastinated my return to the community here. If you’re a longtime reader you’re probably expecting a damn good excuse at this point. You probably expect me to say that I was on a week long trip to Dallas, or that I was at some 10 day meditation retreat pursuing spiritual enlightenment. Nope. I wish I could say that.

The truth is that I haven’t written in over two weeks because I know that I suck at writing after I take an extended break. Once I took a few days off of blogging I repeatedly rationalized putting it off because I knew that the first post I wrote after taking a break was going to be full of technical errors, and probably fail to provide you guys with any value.

That may or may not have been true. Maybe you think this post sucks, or maybe you admire the self-introspection I’ve subjected myself to. Regardless there’s no getting around the bullshit. If I want to once again produce the content I’m capable of I’m going to have to get my elbows dirty in the mud.

I can rationalize all day that the only reason I’m not writing is because I don’t want to give you shitty content. This argument, however, just doesn’t hold up. To produce the content you want I must first produce a few posts that you’re probably going to find mediocre and uninspiring. Oh well.

Is it ideal that I have to give you some shaky content before I can write you your chunks of gold? Nope. However, it’s still a lot better than the alternative; you getting nothing.

For the person that lacks social skills they may say that the reason they don’t go to social events is because they know they’re going to alienate and make others feel uncomfortable.

However, they’re vision is too short sighted and they fail to see that if they go through a year of two of social awkwardness they can be a valuable asset to the social support systems of others’ for the rest of their lives.

In short, if you’re a person who often puts the needs of others before your own you may fall into a similar stack of rationalizations. It’s easy to disguise blaming others for not taking action yourself as altruistic. However, the truth is that you’re failing to look at the big picture and are merely using others as an excuse for why you’re not facing your own fears.

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