The quickest way to build a support system more conductive to your goals is to change what you’re broadcasting to the world.
I hear a LOT of girls complaining about how guys are after them only for their bodies. Well guess what hoebags? It’s true, and YOU DESERVE IT.
When 90% of the pictures you post online are half naked selfies you’re broadcasting to the world you’re desperate for attention and have low self-esteem. It’s not a coincidence the same douchebags keep hitting you up.
The universe doesn’t care about the things you want. The only thing it considers are your actions. If you’re actions demand a certain type of guy that’s what the universe is going to bring you.
The same can be said of any other goal. If you use words like “maybe,” “hopefully,” and “someday” when talking about your goals people aren’t going to want to spend energy helping you pursue them. Why? Because you’re broadcasting doubt.
People are busy, and if you’re not 100% committed to you goals why would they take any interest? Think of it this way, if you received these two emails and only had time to help one of these people who would you pick?
Dear, _____
I suck at socializing. I haven’t had a friend in years and I’ll probably never make another one. I love your advice, but I just can’t do it. I think the world’s against me. I saw a pretty girl at the mall yesterday, but I was too scared to talk to her. I cried last night and I don’t even know if it’s worth it to try anymore. Why are people always jerks to me? How do I make people like me?
Dear, _____
I’ve been a lonely introvert my whole life, but I’ve been using your advice to become more social. It’s been difficult, but I’m taking consistent action and I can see myself slowly improving. I tried saying hi to a girl at the mall yesterday, but she laughed at me. I felt bad, but I understand pain is part of the process and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to develop my social skills. Do you know why the girl laughed at me? How can I improve my social calibration?
See the difference? If you send me the first email it’s probably not going to get a response. I’d love to help you, but since my time is finite I’m not going to waste it giving advice to people who are unlikely to ever use it. Advice without application is useless.
The reason I’d be willing to help the second person is because I’d expect them to respect my time and actually apply the advice.
Wrap-Up
- Changing what you broadcast to the world is the quickest way to change your support system.
- It doesn’t matter what you want, the universe only cares about your actions.
- Broadcasting confidence and commitment will improve your support system.
- Advice without application is useless.
- If people don’t expect you to apply their advice they won’t even bother to give it.
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