Why Each Of These 32 Blogs Will Change Your Life

I’ve always thought a complete list of the Internet’s top personal development blogs would be a fantastic resource. As the saying goes, great minds think alike. Steven Aitchison and Brendan Baker have put together some awesome lists over the past couple years that clearly took a tremendous amount of effort to put together.

I’ve found lots of great blogs through their lists. There were also many blogs that didn’t resonate with me, but that’s to be expected with lists as large as the ones they’ve compiled. I’ve benefited hugely from Brendan and Steven’s lists, and I greatly appreciate the effort they put into them.

Reading their lists inspired me to put together my own list of personal development blogs, but from a different angle.

What’s Different About My List?

Well for one my list only includes 32 blogs. Why 32? Because 50 and 100 are just too many. At that point you’re beginning to sacrifice quality for quantity, and it’s been shown that when you give people too many choices they get overwhelmed and refuse to pick any of them. I also decided to use 32 rather than 30 because it’s unconventional and goes against the grain which is a huge part of personal development.

Another thing that separates my list from most is I’ve actually provided a description of the blogs I’m linking to. This allows you to quickly find blogs that resonate with you, but it also forced me to read all the blogs to find out what they were about and verify they were high quality.

I didn’t want to merely elaborate on Steven and Brendan’s lists so instead I went out on my own, researched and read an endless number of personal development blogs, picked the best, wrote a description to help you determine whether or not they resonate with you, categorized them, and compiled them all into a single FREE blog post for YOUR benefit.

Why Did I Do This?

Like I said, I always thought a complete, detailed list of the internet’s best personal development blogs would be a fantastic resource for anyone interested in becoming a better person. I wanted to create the ultimate resource for anyone wanting to learn more about the field.

I loved what Steven and Brendan were doing with their lists, and if I could create a similar resource that could help others and raise awareness of the field of personal development then doggone it nothing was going to stop me.

This list took me dozens of hours to research, write, and edit, but I think the potential benefits it will bring to anyone who uses it will be well worth the cost. I thank Steven, and Brendan for helping inspire me to put this together and I hope you don’t feel any ill will with me creating a list similar to the ones you’ve created.

Disclaimers & Warnings

There’s some things I’d like to throw out before we get to the actual list. One, as I’ve done all the research, writing, and editing of the post myself I’ve probably made a number of minor mistakes.

I’ve been careful with my research and proofread this whole post a number of times, but I’m sure the occasional research error or typo slipped through. If you notice any grammar errors, or inaccuracies in the information I’ve provided below let me know, and I’ll be sure to change them as soon as possible.

I’ve done my best to provide you with the most complete, detailed resource I could possibly produce. FOR FREE.

If you preferred the simplicity of Brendan or Steven’s list that’s perfectly fine. We’ve all worked to give back to the community in three different ways. That’s the beauty of the internet. You as a consumer have options and are able to use and benefit from whoever’s work best fits your needs.

My request is that regardless of whose list you use, and what blogs you end up reading because of us, PLEASE take action on the things you learn. Don’t be the keyboard jockey who gets caught in analysis paralysis. Don’t subscribe and attempt to follow every blog below. Knowledge may be potential power, but knowledge without action is a pathetic waste of potential.

Finally, legal talk. I provide the guide below to you AS IS and I cannot be held responsible for any actions you take based on the information below. I also cannot be held responsible for any actions you take based on information you may read, see, hear, or otherwise learn about on the various websites this list links out to.

I’ve done my best to make sure all the information listed below was accurate as of the date of publishment, but ultimately cannot be held responsible for any inaccuracies. Basically, use the information provided below responsibly and don’t sue me. 🙂

With that out of the way, I present to you the top 32 blogs that’ll change your life.

(If you apply what you learn from these blogs and work hard this could be your backyard one day…)

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General

The blogs listed below focus on the field of personal development in general rather than being specifically focused on a certain aspect of personal development such as relationships, or finances.

http://www.lifehack.org/

Leon Ho founded Lifehack in 2005 and has since built it into one of the finest blogs in the field of personal development. The site is dedicated to providing you with the best lifehacks on the internet. In other words, Lifehack.org is perhaps the best online resource to learn about new methods, tips, and tricks to hack yourself into becoming a more productive person.

http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog

Although you’ve probably heard of Tim Ferris from his New York Times Bestseller, The 4-Hour Workweek, he’s also known for being the internet’s guinea pig in lifestyle optimization. He’s done a number of awesome experiment including one where he decided to gain 34 pounds of muscle in 30 days.

http://www.stevepavlina.com/

I’ve always held Steve’s blog close to my heart as he’s the one that introduced me to personal development. I’ve never had any personal contact with him, but I feel as if I’ve known him my whole life.

Steve first became interested in personal development in 1991 after being expelled from college and finding himself in a jail cell for felony grand theft. Since hitting rock bottom he’s worked hard to turn his life around.

In the process he graduated from college with a double major in only three semesters, ran a successful computer games business, and most recently pioneered the development of online personal development blogs.

He’s been called the father of personal development blogs because he built a tremendously popular website and was the first to show there was a lot of online interest in the field. However, just because he’s old doesn’t mean he’s irrelevant. He still maintains arguably the best personal development blog on the internet and I highly recommend checking him out.

http://zenhabits.net/

Leo Babauta’s Zenhabits is another one of my favorite blogs. Zenhabits is focused on helping its readers eliminate stress as well as simplify their lives. Leo wants to help people realize that more isn’t necessarily better.

He’s also written extensively on veganism and diet, so I’d recommend his blog if you’re interested in learning to eat healthier. Leo makes a list of his best posts on Zenhabits every year, so if you’re interested in hearing about his philosophies, here’s a good place to start.

http://www.marcandangel.com/

Marc and Angel are a couple who share thoughts and tips on a variety of topics. From love, compassion, goals, and productivity, to personal development in general they share perhaps the most honest, heartfelt advice on the internet.

They’ve got a great community and their site is one of the few where quality contributions and discussions can actually be found in the comments section. Their blog has a more sincere and caring vibe than any other I’ve ever been on. Another thing worth noting, is Marc and Angel write the majority of their posts as lists, so if you enjoy reading articles in that format you’ll likely enjoy their site even more.

http://www.pickthebrain.com/

Pick the Brain was founded by John Wesley in 2006, but remains one of the most popular personal development sites today. Over 200 bloggers have contributed to Pick the Brain, so it’s definitely more diverse than most blogs.

Unfortunately, there’s also a tradeoff with being so diverse. Pick the Brain has so many writers it’s difficult to feel like you’re ever really getting to know them. It’s also a more mainstream personal development blog, but it’s still a great site and definitely worth checking out.

http://www.rsdnation.com/

For those of you unfamiliar with the site, rsdnation is the place where Tyler as well as several other of the best pickup artists in the world post their videos. Don’t let the term pick up artist turn you off, however.

Although some of the videos discuss topics relevant only to pick up, the majority of the videos have a huge overlap with personal development. I especially recommend this site to guys, but I think open minded females will find it interesting as well. In addition to having awesome video content, rsdnation is also home to what I feel is the best social dynamics forum on the internet.

http://www.dumblittleman.com

Although even the author doesn’t know where the name came from, Dumb Little Man is a great site to learn more about productivity, automating your life, and achieving your goals. It’s written by a man who goes by the pen name of Jay White, and if you’re interested in the site I’d recommend getting started with these two articles. Also, if you’re reading this Jay White, in my humble opinion you should have named your site big smart man. 😉

http://tinybuddha.com

First we had Dumb Little Man, and now we have Tiny Buddha. What’s next, miniaturemoses.com? 😉 Small talk aside, I really liked Tiny Buddha. It’s run by Lori Deschene and reminds me a bit of Zen Habits.

Although Lori’s blog is called Tiny Buddha, it isn’t about Buddhism. She writes on a number of topics from motivation, relationships, love, mindfulness, letting go, and beyond. Some posts I’d recommend getting started with are Tragedy Can Help Us Find Our Life’s Purpose and How to Rewire Your Brain (and Renew Your Life). Also worth noting, is Tiny Buddha has a personal development forum. If you’ve been searching for one since Steve Pavlina closed his, Lori’s forum might be just what you were looking for.

http://www.penelopetrunk.com/

Penelopetrunk.com is written by none other than Mrs. Penelope Trunk. I know, I know, real shocker there. 😉 Penelope Trunk’s blog covers everything from productivity, and self-management to finding a career, and entrepreneurship. She also happens to live in Wisconsin, the same state as yours truly.

Penelope’s done everything from founding several companies, to finishing 17th at the beach volleyball’s national championship, to becoming a full-time writer, and settling down on a rural farm in Southwest Wisconsin where she’s gotten married and is now raising her children. Some good posts to get started with on her blog are Don’t Do What You Love and Living Up to Your Potential.

http://chrisguillebeau.com

I REALLY LIKE Chris’s blog. I actually found it just a couple weeks ago, but I’ve been a loyal reader since. Along with never holding a “real job,” Chris has led an unconventional life in which he’s actually visited every country in the world!

Even crazier is the fact that he’s accomplished so much despite the fact he’s only 35 years old. Of course, I shouldn’t be one to talk as I’m only 16 myself, but he’s living proof that you can live your dreams no matter how out there they may seem. If you’re having trouble building up the courage to follow your dream, or you’re struggling to convince others your dreams have merits this is the perfect blog for you. Chris’s content on unconventional living is second to none.

(Adventures like this are just an everyday occurrence for Chris.)

http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/

Ayee mate, if you haven’t heard Steven Aitchison is the UK’s go to personal development blogger. In addition to blogging extensively about relationships, and success, he’s also created a number of personal development products.

I haven’t tried out any of his products personally, so I don’t feel comfortable recommending them. With that being said, I’ve read a number of his blog posts over the last couple years and I’d be surprised to hear them disappoint.

http://mnmlist.com/

In addition to being the man behind Zenhabits.net, Leo Babauta also has another awesome blog in mnmlist. As you may have noticed, mnmlist is actually a short hand form of the word minimalist which is (no surprise here), the topic of the blog.

Me and Leo both agree that the important things in life aren’t, well, things. Less is more. Excess clutter does little more than contribute to stress. I highly recommend mnmlist.com, as I truly believe you’ll be happier for applying the lessons Leo writes about.

http://www.positivityblog.com/

The Positivity Blog is run by Henrik Edberg, a 32 year old man from Sweden who’s spent the last seven years immersing himself in the field of personal development. Henrik writes primarily on becoming more productive, living a happier life, and improving your relationships. I actually just discovered Henrik’s blog while doing research for this list, but I’ve read several of his posts and would recommend getting started with Do You Make These 3 Common Mistakes and Get Lost in Procrastination?

http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/

Scott H. Young is a blogger who writes about a wide variety of topics in the field of personal development. He’s in his mid-twenties so he’s another young blogger, but he has some deep insights. Besides his philosophical thoughts I also enjoyed his articles on social independence and how to become more social.

http://sivers.org/

Derek Sivers is well known for being the founder and former CEO of CD Baby, but he also has a fantastic blog. He writes about the things interesting things he’s learned through out his life, and he’s got a number of awesome posts. Here’s one of my favorites.

http://thinksimplenow.com/

Think Simple Now is a personal development blog dedicated to helping empower people. It was started in 2007 by Tina Su, and is still written by her and a small team of similarly growth oriented woman today. From the handful of posts I’ve read it seemed to be aimed more towards women, but there’s still good advice for everyone on the site. Everyone could benefit from reading this post.

http://liveyourlegend.net/

Scott Dinsmore does an awesome job running the show at Live Your Legend. He’s spent the past eight years running experiments on himself, to find out what sets people on fire, and now helps others to just that. He’s got some phenomenal content on his blog, and although I had never heard of him prior to making this list, I’m now hooked. Here’s a killer post he’s written on surrounding yourself with passionate people.

http://alden-tan.com

I just found Alden’s blog while looking through websites for this list, but it’s absolutely phenomenal! I can’t believe I’d never heard of it earlier! If the law of attraction, and new agey personal development material that’s been surfacing lately turns you off this blog is for you! Alden may bust out the profanities at times, but he keeps things real like NOBODY ELSE!

(How Alden would do an impression of someone preaching the Law of Attraction.)

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/

Although Seth Godin’s blog is written with marketing in mind, there’s a lot of overlap with personal development in his posts. He publishes daily and he a better job of saying lots in fewer words than anybody else. He often writes about doing things to stand out and be the best you can possibly. He recently passed 5,000 posts in his archive, but if you want to get started reading his blog don’t be overwhelmed. Here’s a gem to start off with.

http://www.thechangeblog.com/

The Change Blog was created by Peter Clemens in 2007 after he received the news he was going to become a father. Once Peter realized he was going to have a kid he immediately began inner work to shift into the person he always wanted to be. A number of people now write for his blog, but the focus of The Change Blog is still to show change is always possible. Even if you don’t feel confident that you can change, the folks over at the Change Blog can show you how to develop self-confidence.

http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/

Donald Latumahina first got the idea of lifestyle optimization from his background in computer science. He fell in love with the idea of aiming to maximize the computer’s resources and now works to do the same with himself. Living up to his potential, per se. If you’re interested with getting started with lifestyle optimization yourself start with this article.

http://sidsavara.com/

I really like Sid Savara. He keeps things real and his advice is awesome. He’s been interested in patterns since he was a kid and he learned that by analyzing what worked for other people and systematically testing it he was able to learn anything other people could do. His analytical nature comes through in his blog posts and I highly recommend him. Here’s a super interesting article he wrote on how dopamine and other natural reward chemicals impact our pursuit of growth.

http://www.prolificliving.com/blog/

Farnoosh (Love the name!) is a wonderful women who could never seem to find happiness in her career. That all changed in 2011 when she quit her 6-figure corporate job and started Prolific Living. Since then she’s been living the dream and now writes blog posts helping others to do the same.

http://tynan.com/

Tynan is hands down my favorite blogger and it’s not just because he built SETT (the blogging platform my blog is hosted on). In addition to developing SETT Tynan is also a former pickup artist and professional gambler as well as a minimalist and RV’er today. He writes mainly about productivity and unconventional living and I can’t recommend him highly enough. Some great posts to get started with from his blog are love work and be the twin.

(Do you want to have this much fun working? Better read Tynan’s blog.)

http://sebastianmarshall.com/

Sebastian Marshall is the Seth Godin of personal development. He posts nearly everyday, and never fails to get me thinking. When I was first introduced to Sebastian’s blog I didn’t think I would be interested in it because he often references historical events I’ve never even heard of.

However, Sebastian does an amazing job of expressing himself and despite having little interest in history I always finish his posts with interesting insights applicable to my own life. One of my favorite posts from Sebastian is about why you need to stop comparing yourself to the average person.

http://goodlifezen.com/

Mary Jaksch is an authorized zenmaster from New Zealand. She teaches people to see life from a different perspective and helps them accomplish their dreams and becoming the people they want to be in the process. Some good posts to get started with on her blog are how to transform your experience and ways to develop your intelligence at any age.

 

Relationships, Emotions, and Spiritual

http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/

Erin’s blog is so different from the other blogs in this list it earned its own category. While the rest of the blogs on the list cover personal development from a logical perspective Erin (Steve Pavlina’s ex-wife) covers it from a more spiritual, psychic view.

I found Erin’s blog through Steve’s a couple years back and I’ve been reading it ever since.

Although I don’t have any first-hand experience with her or any other psychics, after reading both her’s and Steve’s blogs for a number of years I think it’s highly likely that she’s capable of doing the things she says she can do. I’m a really logical guy so I feel strange recommending her blog, but give it a read. I really do think it’s legit.

Business and Financial

Some of the blogs listed below are focused only on entrepreneurship and straightening out your finances, however, many of them also have some relevancy to personal development as well.

http://www.problogger.net/

Has reading this list inspired you to want to start your own blog? Or, if you already have a blog, looking to increase your traffic and monetize it? Then this is the blog you’ve been looking for. Run by “Pro Blogger” Darren Rowse, this website is the authority on how to make your blogging dreams come true. I subscribe to Problogger and can’t recommend them highly enough. It’s a spectacular resource and a must read blog for anyone looking to take blogging seriously.

http://paidtoexist.com/blog

Before Jonathan Mead chose the path less traveled he did the same thing most people do. He worked at a job he hated just because he thought he had to. Fortunately, he realized he was wasting his life away and that lead to the creation of, Paid to Exist, a website created to help other people make a living doing that they love. If you’re currently working at a job you hate and don’t know how to quit, be sure to read this post.

http://www.wakeupcloud.com/

Henri of Wake Up Cloud is a blogger from Finland who writes about how to turn your passion into a thriving lifestyle business. I really like Henri’s philosophy because his blog isn’t just about making money. It’s about building an online business that supports your lifestyle and gives you more freedom. Even if you’ve currently got a decent job, I’d still recommend reading at least this article.

http://thinktraffic.net/about

If you’re trying to build a popular website you NEED to subscribe to Think Traffic. They don’t just give you the same “social media” marketing techniques every other blog does. Corbett Barr (the founder) consistently produces epic shit and teaches you how to do the same. If you’re trying to build traffic to your online business or blog ThinkTraffic is a MUST READ.

Passing The Mic

If you found this post useful please use the facebook and twitter buttons to share it with others who may benefit from it. I’ve done my best to narrow the list down to what I consider the most essential reads, but of course I’m far from perfect. I’m sure I missed some really great blogs. Be sure to let me know if I missed any of your favorites in the comments! 🙂

Remember, you can meditate, and plan all you want, but it means NOTHING if you don’t take action. Share this post it if it helped you, and subscribe so you don’t miss out on future posts, but then get off your computer and go do something to change the world!

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(First three pictures in this post taken by me during my 2010 trip to Arkansas, and my 2011 trip to Arizona. Last three pictures are of me during the 2010 and 2011 school year.)

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Fuck What They Think, This Is Your Life

I see a lot of people worrying about what he said she said. He said being a writer’s lame. She said I should give up on my dreams because I’m never going to accomplish shit. Look, it’s bullshit that people are ripping on you and your dreams, but you know what’s even more pathetic? The fact that you actually listen to them.

Life if precious. There are no second chances. There are no do-overs. You’re not a fucking cat. You only get one shot at this and when the buzzer beats it’s game-over.

You can’t waste the rest of your life worrying about what other people are going to think of you. Fuck what he said she said. Nobody has the right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can or can’t do.

This is your life. Live it the way you want to live it. Prove the haters wrong. Show them how great you are. Relentlessly pursue your dreams, and don’t let anyone or anything stop you from achieving them. The only person that dictates what you can or can’t do is you.

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How To Attract Abundance When You’re In A Scarce Reality

Do we live in a world where the rich get richer and the poor get poorer? No doubt. But don’t we also live in a world with an incredible amount of rags to riches stories? For sure. However, this brings up an even more important question. What’s the difference between the poor man who keeps getting poorer, and the poor man who creates an abundant reality for himself?

Appreciation. You’re going to find attracting abundance into your life extremely difficult if you can’t appreciate what you already have.

The universe is a lot like a girl you have a crush on. If you’re constantly bugging it for attention, and desperately begging it to answer your calls you’re probably not going to get an answer. On the other hand if you can appreciate what you’ve already got, and you don’t need anything from it to be happy you’ll quickly find it answers your calls.

Now here’s the key. Abundance may attract more abundance, but the definition of abundance is subjective. You may think a salary of $25,000 a year is chump change, but it’s still probably way more than several families from Africa make combined.

By learning to appreciate what you’ve already got you’ll actually be adopting a mindset of abundance in the process.

That’s Great, But When Do I Actually Make The Big $$$?

Here’s the thing, while adopting a mindset of abundance is beneficial it won’t magically add money to your bank account. You still have to take action, and hustle.

Fortunately adopting a mindset of abundance guarantees you’ll generate much less internal resistance to taking action. It’ll still require hard work and effort to write blog post after blog post everyday for months before you build an audience and the first dollar pours in.

However, if your actions align with your values and you have an abundant mindset you’ll find the whole process seems to naturally flow, and you’ll quickly find more abundance manifesting in your life.

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Run Through The Finish Line

We had completely separated ourselves from the pack. I had been the leader the whole race, but we were now neck and neck running stride for stride in the final straightaway of the 800m. He was pushing me to my limits, but with less than 10m to go I was still in the lead.

The excitement within the stadium was tremendous. The atmosphere was inspirational and the energy felt within that moment was indescribable. As my feet continued to pound against the rubber I saw him out of the corner of my eye. We were neck and neck once again with but two or three strides separating us from the finish line.

As I took a stride he took one, and as I leaped for the finish line he mirrored me. The crowd exploded, but as I stumbled across the finish line and looked up I saw the disappointment in the faces of my teammates. I had lost, and with tears in my eyes I walked off the track.

I had let everyone down. The girl I loved. My parents. My brothers. My teammates. But most of all, I had let myself down.

I was pissed. I had seen the finish line. My mouth was watering, but because I ran to the finish line instead of through it I never got to taste victory. After losing I made a promise to myself that day. I was done with just running to the finish line.

Something I realized that day was successful people don’t get satisfied when they taste success. They get hungry, and as long as you’re satisfied with just tasting success you’re never going to become one.

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Building And Leveraging Momentum

The idea of momentum is really interesting. I’m not a sports junkie anymore, but when I used to be a big fan I remember momentum being mentioned by the losing coach in almost every post game interview. Often along the lines of “We were playing well, but we made a few mental errors, and after losing our momentum we were unable to recover.”

Regardless of if you’re a big sports fan or not I’m sure you’ve heard something similar at some point. Of course, momentum isn’t just important in sports. It’s relevant to every other area of our lives as well.

Momentum In Socializing

Have you ever noticed that when you first arrive at a social event it tends to be pretty dry? People may be engaging in small talk, but nobody’s really dancing, or having a massive amount of fun? This is social momentum at work.

When you unplug from work, or whatever you were doing earlier in the day, it takes a while for your brain to shift from “logical” mode to “social” mode. This is why when you first start talking to someone the things you say may not come off as smoothly, and you might feel somewhat stuck in your head.

However, after you’ve been talking to them for a few minutes your brain will start to click into social mode, and as long as you’ve got decent social skills you’ll begin to vibe with the other person. Because of micro-momentum you’ll find your social skills improving through out the night.

However, in addition to micro-momentum there’s also another type of momentum called macro-momentum. This is a more consistent momentum built over a longer period of time.

In the case of your social life you can build macro-momentum by going out consistently over a period of several days, weeks, months, or even years. Even if you can’t drastically improve your social skills within a couple days you’ll find your interactions running more smoothly simply because you have social-momentum.

Think of it this way. If downing a few drinks allows you to be more social for one night think of macro-momentum as a constant low level buzz (without the hangover). By consistently going to social events you can leverage momentum to quickly improve the quality of your interactions.

Momentum In Other Areas Of Life

Even if you’re already satisfied with your social life both micro and macro-momentum can be used to improve any other area of your life as well.

Take writing for example. If you want to improve your writing skills set aside some time to write everyday. By doing this you’ll find it easier to come up with new ideas, and you’ll find that writing becomes an enjoyable activity where your words just seem to flow rather than one where you find articulating your thoughts is painful.

As a writer you’ll also notice that when you first sit down writing may be difficult, but as you type the first paragraph, and then the second it quickly becomes easier and easier.

Even if you don’t have inspiration initially I recommend attempting to write for at least 15 minutes before giving up. I’ve found that as my brain switches to “writing” mode I’m inspired to write about something and am able to complete a whole post on it 9 times out of 10.

Leveraging Momentum In Your Personal Development

Perhaps the greatest thing about momentum is it can apply to your personal development on a broader scale as well.

In the case of micro-momentum you’ll typically find that if you complete one thing off your todo list you’ll be motivated to do more. For example, if you lift weights in the morning you may feel more motivated to eat healthy, or read afterwards instead of zombify in front of the TV.

However, if you start the day with a movie marathon, or eat junk food you’ll find yourself more prone to making poorer decisions later in the day as well. How you spend the first hour of your day is extremely important in determining how the rest of your day is going to play out.

Despite the importance of micro-momentum, macro-momentum is even more important in personal development. If you ever plan to accomplish ambitious goals macro-momentum is a necessity.

Because I consistently exercise, eat healthy, write, etc. I’ve got a lot of macro-momentum. If I procrastinate and miss a day of exercise or writing it’s probably not going to kill me.

When you consistently do things for a long enough period of time they require less and less effort, and they almost become a part of you. They’re not automatic, but they essentially become your new comfort zone.

Even if I’m feeling lazy and lack energy on a particular day I’m probably still going to be able to write simply because I’ve got enough macro-monentum on my side.

How To Build Momentum

Building momentum is a simple, straightforward process. If you’re aiming to build micro-momentum consciously decide to make the next action you take a positive one that moves you closer to your goals.

If you’re trying to build macro-momentum consciously craft an environment that consistently requires you to establish habits that’ll force you expand your comfort zone.

If you’re to lose weight this could mean joining a gym and hiring a personal trainer or finding an accountability partner. If you’re trying to develop better social skills this may mean giving a close friend $200 and telling them to keep it unless you go to 5 social events this week.

Regardless of your specific circumstances, if building momentum and making changes in your life is truly important to you you’ll find a way to make it happen. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.

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100 Original Quotes Guaranteed To Motivate You

Accomplishing any meaningful goal takes sustained effort over a long period of time. Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and unfortunately it’s easy to get burnt out from time to time. That’s why I’ve put together a list of 100 motivational quotes compiled from previous blog posts as well as my twitter account (Update June 2015: I no longer use Twitter) . All are 100% original (to my knowledge), so they won’t be the same cliche quotes you’ve already heard 100 times.

1. You can fit in or you can stand out. You can’t do both.

2. You have to go through failure to reach success.

3. It’s impossible to improve if you’re unwilling to admit improvement’s possible.

4. Things will never change until you make the decision to change them.

5. Success is a journey, not a destination.

6. If you value yourself as a person rejection shouldn’t hurt. After all, it’s the other person’s loss.

7. The greatest thing you can ever do for yourself is take responsibility for everything you experience.

8. Overcoming fear isn’t a character trait you’re born with. It’s a skill you develop.

9. You have the power to do anything. Nobody can stop you, except you.

10. Life is like a piggy bank. What you put into it is exactly what you’re able to get out of it.

11. You might be a nobody now, but you don’t have to be a nobody the rest of your life.

12. If you want to be confident you need to do what you say you’re going to do, keep things 100% real, and stop putting up with bullshit excuses.

13. When you focus on the needs of others you’ll quickly find your own needs getting met as well.

14. You can get comfortable with being uncomfortable or look back at your dreams one day and wonder what if?

15. You’ll never get anything better as long as your hands are full with what you already have.

16. Use your pain as motivation to change rather than as an excuse for why you can’t do something.

17. Success is something you do, not something you are.

18. Change requires you to be uncomfortable with your current circumstances.

19. You can drive for as long as you want, but if you don’t know where you’re going you’ll never get there.

20. Excessive resistance simply means your values don’t align with your goals.

21. If you want to experience something you’ve never experienced you need to change.

22. If anyone’s going to experience your dreams, why not you?

23. Excuses are lies we tell ourselves to justify why can’t do something.

24. You won’t have truly fulfilling relationships until you’re willing to let go of the people who won’t accept you for who you are.

25. The average person will quit as soon as they feel discomfort, but you’re not average so keep pushing forward!

26. Those who start at the bottom have more potential than anyone else.

27. The quickest way to feel happy is to make someone else smile.

28. A vision without action is merely a fantasy.

29. If you’re not channeling your energy effectively into pursuits you deem to be worthwhile you’ll never be happy nor fulfilled.

30. If you’re not willing to close the first door you’ll never see the second one open.

31. Be willing to let go of who you are for who you can become.

32. Listening to your heart may be the most difficult thing you’ll ever do, but it’ll also be the most rewarding.

33. If you’re feeling bored it means you’re not challenging yourself enough.

34. You can always choose to be grateful rather than complain.

35. The problem with relying on drugs, or other crutches to manage your emotions is that doing so isn’t sustainable.

36. Material possessions are worthless if you don’t have anyone to share them with.

37. Knowing you have a bad habit does you no good if you’re unwilling to change it.

38. Success isn’t something that just happens to you. It’s a choice you have to make.

39. Stop worrying about what other people think. Focus on your actions rather than their reactions.

40. Basing your self-worth on the words of others is stupid because it’s a variable entirely out of your control.

41. Taking action towards your goals shouldn’t feel like a chore. If it does, you’ve set the wrong goals.

42. No matter what your goal is, if you’re 100% committed and willing to do whatever it takes to succeed, you will.

43. As long as you’re making progress towards your goals there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to love yourself for who you are today.

44. Once you decide you’re going to do something your commitment should be so unwavering that it’s effectively already done.

45. Advice is useless if you don’t take action on it.

46. Stop being a slave to imaginary what-if scenarios and your results will quickly improve in everything you do.

47. The intelligent way to adopt any new behavior is to start so trivially small it’s impossible to fail.

48. Instead of complaining about unfavorable circumstances use them to push you to heights you wouldn’t have otherwise been able to achieve.

49. People who don’t pursue their dreams may be alive, but they’re not really living.

50. By consciously choosing what you broadcast to the world you’ll attract relationships and situations more conductive to your success.

51. Trying to be cool is the worst way to experience social abundance.

52. Complaining about depression never made made anyone happy.

53. Success is the result of taking actions centered around long term prosperity rather than instant gratification.

54. Focusing on a problem only serves to magnify it. Instead direct your energy on the solution.

55. If you aren’t willing to do whatever it takes to reach your goals, it’s time for new goals.

56. The root of every addiction lies in having an unmet need. Once you’re able to fill the void, the addiction is easily overcome.

57. Your level of confidence is a direct reflection of your ability to live in accordance with your highest values.

58. You only get one life. Don’t waste it living someone else’s dream.

59. Perhaps the greatest thing about life is you you have 100% free will. You can spend your life doing WHATEVER you want.

60. Nothing’s harder than going from self-loathing to loving yourself, BUT IT’S FUCKING WORTH IT!

61. No matter how dark the tunnel is, there’s always a light at the end.

62. If you want to be happy when you look in the mirror you have two choices. Accept yourself as you are, or make the commitment to change.

63. The only way to make amends for the past is to create a better future.

64. I couldn’t live with myself if I failed to do everything in my power to positively influence others.

65. If you stumble, resist the temptation to fall.

66. It’s not about being smart or being talented. It’s about heart.

67. Those with the darkest pasts often go on to live the brightest futures.

68. You WILL face setbacks, but even the greatest of goals can be accomplished through perseverance.

69. Because our external realities are mere reflections of our inner selves it’s impossible to have an inner identity shift without making external progress.

70. Complaining only perpetuates your problems. Don’t think of what’s wrong, but rather what you can do to make them right.

71. Good things come to those who hustle.

72. The only way to overcome a fear is to face it.

73. Self loathing has NEVER accomplished anything.

74. Sometimes the most challenging problems are only difficult because they’re not the ones that need solving.

75. It’s only a failure if you don’t learn from it.

76. A baby never learned to walk by complaining about its incompetence.

77. As long as hold onto your current social circle, you resist the manifestation of new relationships that are more conductive to your success.

78. If just thinking about your goals doesn’t fill you with excitement, they’re not big enough.

79. Everything in this world is perfect for either our enjoyment or our growth.

80. Complaining about those that complain only feeds the negativity.

81. This moment is the first moment of the rest of your life

82. When we seek to understand the perspective of others instead of judging them we develop a greater understanding for why they act in the manner they do.

83. Most fears have no rational basis in reality.

84. The time will never be right until you make it the right time.

85. Complaining about how you’re fat, lonely, and depressed does nothing to solve the problem, if anything it makes it worse.

86. Successful people are successful because they take massive action and massive action equals massive results.

87. Time isn’t an abundant resource that can be found just anywhere. If something is important to you, you have to make time for it.

88. If you want to be the best person you can possibly be you need to consciously craft your environment and put yourself in situations where adaption is necessary.

89. If you want to succeed you need to consciously and carefully chose the input you’re allowing into your life.

90. If making a change in your life is truly important you won’t wait until tomorrow.

91. If you’re feeling down it’s because your actions aren’t in congruence with your highest vision of yourself.

92. Regardless of how bad your circumstances may seem, they can be overcome.

93. Often it’s the smallest things in life that produce the biggest results.

94. While it’s important to learn from your past mistakes, it’s also important to not dwell on them.

95. If you don’t change the world, who do you expect to?

96. Improvement isn’t linear, but it should trend upward. If it’s not you’re approaching some part of the process wrong.

97. If you’re not giving it everything you’ve got on any given day you’re never going to make it big.

98. The reason the greats are great is they’re willing to go further than anyone else.

99. Stop worrying about what you don’t have and take a moment to appreciate what you do have.

100. Instead of complaining about unfavorable circumstances use them to push you to heights you wouldn’t have otherwise been able to achieve.

Which quote was your favorite? Let me know in the comments below and be sure to follow me on twitter for daily motivation and more interesting insights 🙂

Most importantly, actually use the motivation you got from this post. Don’t spend the whole day on Reddit. Get up from your computer right now and go change the world!

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Pictures are from my 2011 trip to Sabino Canyon.

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10 Reasons Everyone Hates You (And What You Can Do About It)

If you’ve been following my blog since the very beginning you may have read my post on Why I Love Everyone. In that post I said you’d live a happier existence if you did your best to understand and love everyone. I still stand by that.

Let’s be honest though, 99% of the world doesn’t live by that philosophy so if you’re an annoying brat you’re not going to get very far in life. If you’re constantly being a jerk, or leeching off other people nobody’s going to want to have anything to do with you.

I’ve got a few haters myself, but for the most part people consistently tell me I’m a really likable person. I used to be the annoying leech though so I’m going to share with you some reasons why people hate being around you, and what you can do to change.

You’re A Value Sucking Leech

Relationships are like phones. They go both ways. If you’re constantly hitting me up for favors, yet you magically disappear when I need one it’s no wonder we don’t get along. What kind of brothership is that?

Now here’s the key. There’s multiple ways to leech value. It’s not just asking me to loan you money or do you favors.

For example, let’s say your a socially clueless loser and I’m your only friend. If I bring you to parties it’s probably going to increase your rep, but lower my social status. If you can’t provide me with some type of value in return our relationship is going to be filled with tension and fizzle out.

I’m doing you a favor by letting my rep take a hit and getting you into parties so it’s only fair if you’re providing me with some type of value in return. Whether that’s in the form of tutoring me, giving me guitar lessons, or letting me use your pool on the weekends is irrelevant.

The point is, over the long haul we need to be exchanging relatively equal amounts of value in order for our relationship to thrive. Otherwise resentment is going to build up in whoever’s being leeched off of.

You’re A Helpless Suicidal Freak

Look, I have compassion for those who are depressed. Until the last couple years most of my life was spent being depressed. However, at some point you need to put up or shut up.

Make the decision to change or stop venting to me about your problems. Negativity is contagious, and people are emotional creatures. If someone constantly feels bad after talking to you they’re eventually going to stop chilling with you.

Obviously I’m no doctor and I can’t legally give medical advice, but if you feel helpless or depressed I’d recommend you read the ultimate guide to turning your life around and living your dreams. If you’re so depressed you can’t spend 10 minutes reading a blog post, I’d recommend contacting a qualified professional and getting help immediately.

You’re A Selfish Jerk

Maybe you’re not a negative person, but if you’re the type of guy who takes two parking spots or uses your cell phone at the movies it’s no wonder nobody likes you.

The problem with being selfish is it’s only good for instant gratification. Life isn’t about material possessions, but if all you ever do is look out for yourself that’s all you’re ever going to have.

You’ll never develop fulfilling relationships if you’re not willing to do others favors and help them with their goals. You’ll also find that the scarcity based mindset of selfishness and seeing what you can take from others isn’t even the best way to maintain material wealth.

When you focus on the needs of others and what you can do to meet them you’ll quickly find your own needs getting met as well.

You’re A Braggart

Reaching your goals and accomplishing things is great. People may even have genuine happiness for you the first time you tell them about one of your accomplishments. However, when your constantly rubbing your wealth, or benchpress record in someone’s face it quickly becomes annoying.

When you find yourself constantly bragging to others it’s usually because you lack confidence, and are seeking their approval to comfort your ego and validate the things you’ve done.

Many people lack confidence, but fortunately if you’re committed there’s several ways to develop it. I’ve written a post about developing confidence in the past, but if you don’t have time to read it here are the three keys.

Do what you say you’re going to do, keep things 100% real, and stop putting up with bullshit excuses. If you follow those three principles you’ll quickly find yourself becoming a more confident person.

Above all, remember that people are never impressed by braggarts. Yes, it’s cool that you’ve accomplished things, but people will find your accomplishments a lot more impressive when you’re not shoving them down their throat.

You’re A Know It All

There’s nothing wrong with being intelligent, but like accomplishments, people won’t appreciate your advice if you’re trying to shove it down their throat. Even worse is the people who think they know it all almost never do. After all, the more you learn the less you know.

Excessive advice giving and attempting to force my beliefs on others is something I used to struggle with, but here’s something I realized. You can’t force someone to believe something and you shouldn’t be mad at them if they don’t.

If you had the exact same reference experiences as them you’d likely hold the exact same beliefs. What I’d recommend to you is to remember this. When the student is ready the teacher will appear, but the student won’t listen if the teacher tries to start class early.

You’re A Chatterbox

There’s nothing wrong with being social. The problem is talking to someone and never giving them a chance to speak isn’t a conversation. It’s a lecture. I think there’s two solutions to this problem.

Some people talk excessively because they lack social abundance. They try to milk each conversation simply because they’re trying to fulfill their need to socialize and they’re not sure when they’re going to get another chance to have someone listen to them. In this case the solution is simple. Simply go out and socialize more.

Other people simply don’t understand how social dynamics work or can’t read body language. They don’t understand that when someone starts to become disinterested in what you have to say it’s usually a good time to give them a chance to talk.

I’ve always believed the best way to learn body language was to go out and get reference experiences, but if that hasn’t worked for you try reading this.

You’re A Thinker

Most people are socially conditioned zombies. When you tell them going to college isn’t necessary, or they hear you’re trying to get better with girls they’re going to think you’re crazy. Don’t worry about them though.

For the majority of our evolution living in packs and subscribing to group think was beneficial. ‘Fending for yourself in the jungle would have been extremely difficult solo so most people decided to form tribes as a means of protection.

The problem now is that we’re not living in the jungle anymore. Group think isn’t beneficial like it once was, but you have to be conscious of it to escape its grasp so most people don’t. Even if you don’t force your beliefs on them like the know it all might, nobody likes having their belief systems challenged so you’re going to take a lot of flack from them.

The solution? Surround yourself with other thinkers. If I shared most of the ideas on my blog with other high school kids it’d be way over their head and they’d probably think I was high.

Through this blog, however, I’ve found a group of people who can both understand and benefit from my ideas. I can’t stress enough the importance of finding someone who you can discuss your ideas with. If you don’t know other thinkers in real life feel free to post them in the community section.

You’re A Liar

Lying is perhaps the quickest way to make someone hate you. Breaking your promises is bogus homey. I wouldn’t want to be your friend either.

Whether you said you’d do something you didn’t, or broke a promise is irrelevant. Lying destroys the trust you shared with another person and puts you in relationship bankruptcy.

Others may hate you for a long time after you lie to them, but it is possible to regain their trust. Simply commit to always telling the truth from this point forward. Easier said than done, but it’s the only way you’ll be able to rebuild your relationships.

You’re A Success

Although most people will love you because they feel inspired by your success, some people will hate you for it, and there’s nothing you can do. The moment you begin improving your life you’re going to begin attracting haters.

Lots of people don’t like it when others do big things because it makes them feel bad about themselves. Don’t worry about them though. It’s nothing personal. The only reason they hate you is because you’re willing to take action in the face of fear, something they’re not.

There’s not a lot you can do about haters except ignore them and prevent yourself from being dragged down to their level.

You’re A Hater

If you’re not the successful person you likely fall under this category. You’re the type of person who always has to immediately discredit the things others do and talk about the things you could do, well if you really wanted to that is…

The biggest problem with being a hater is it doesn’t just hurt your relationships, it also hurts you. When you’re constantly ripping on successful people, it’ll cause a negative association in your brain and you’ll subconsciously block yourself from ever becoming one of those successful people.

What I’d recommend to you is practice appreciating other people’s accomplishments rather than trying to tear them down. You’ll feel more positive, and increase your own chances of becoming successful one day.

Are you one of the people discussed above? And if so, what are you going to do about it?

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The Ultimate Guide To Turning Your Life Around And Living Your Dreams

Take a minute to step back and look at your life. Look at all the things you’ve overcome. Look at your current struggles. Look at who you once were. And look at who you want to be.

After you’ve done all that imagine a bottle of water. Alone water has no form. Rather it’s flexible and takes the shape of whatever container holds it. When you pour the water from a bottle to a glass it changes form. People are the same way.

Humans have no default form. We’re capable of adapting to almost anything, but we never adapt to things unless our environments force us to.

The reason so many people are lazy losers is because our genetics only care that we survive, not that we thrive. Since there’s no real consequences to being lazy it’s most people’s default response because it’s effortless and requires no adaption.

Another problem is because things like food, and mating opportunities were once scarce, our natural reward system has trained us to get as much of them as possible while the “getting is good.”

Everyone knows cookies are unhealthy, but most people still eat them because they provide an instant dopamine hit which we perceive as “being yummy.”

The problem with the modern world, however, is that the getting is always good. We never have to worry about shortages of food or mating opportunities.

A quick trip to the grocery store can provide you with enough sweets for a week and because of internet porn (which your brains perceives to be real) you can see more hot chicks (or guys) in 5 minutes than your ancestors would see in several lifetimes.

When you put yourself in an environment where your survival needs are so easily met, you have no reason to change. Why would your brain want to meet real girls (or guys) when you’ve got access to a computer and high-speed internet?

Although the solution to escaping the path of mediocrity is simple, it’s not easy. If you want to become the best person you can possibly be you need to consciously craft your environment and put yourself in situations where adaption is necessary.

Now this is easier said than done, but aside from slaving away your life to instant gratification as most people do, it’s the only choice you’ve got.

Now here’s the key, if you try to turn your whole life around overnight you’re going to fail miserably. Willpower is limited, and the human brain can only tackle a couple new habits at a time. Fortunately, that’s perfectly fine!

Slow but consistent progress is nothing to be ashamed of. The turtle won the race against the rabbit. Running fast and making big changes is great, but if you lack the previous life experience and track record to do so, you’ll likely only run in circles.

Step One Create A Vision

Before you start implementing new habits you need to have a vision of what you want your life to look like. While creating this vision it’s important to realize that regardless of what you’ve been in the past, there’s no limit to what you can become in the future.

When you’re visualizing your future it’s important to have a vision that moves your soul and inspires you on a deep emotional level. I’d go as far as saying that when you’re picturing your ideal reality it should really move you and you should even cry a little bit. My eyes never fail to tear up when I think about the things I’m going to accomplish or more importantly, the lives I’m going to change.

If you’re having trouble with visualizing what you want I’d recommend opening up a document on your computer and pouring your heart into it until you come up with something that really resonates with you on every level of your being.

If you want an example here’s my current life purpose. To love, be loved, be the best I can be, and help others be the best they can be.

Here’s a couple things to keep in mind when creating your life purpose. First, I’ve found that getting too focused on the specifics is detrimental.

Since I changed my life purpose from being the world’s best motivational speaker to simply being the best I can be, and helping others do the same it’s resonated on a much deeper level with me. I’d recommend focusing more on the message of your goal rather than the medium you plan to accomplish it through.

Second it’s important to not spend too long trying to come up with the “perfect life purpose.” If you can’t think of yours within a day you’re looking far too much into this.

You’re allowed to have a dynamic life purpose. I take some time to change mine every couple months. If you seem to be stuck in picking a life purpose simply pick the one that resonates with you the most and change it later if necessary.

Once you’ve come up with a life purpose that resonates with you put it somewhere you’ll see it everyday. If you spend a lot of time at your computer make it your background. If you’re not a technology geek hang it on your bedroom door. Wherever you decide to put it it’s super important it’s somewhere you’ll see it everyday.

Hanging up your life purpose may sound a little weird, but it definitely helps. You’ll find that when you see your life purpose on a day you lack motivation, it’ll remind you why you do the things you do, and will help you keep the ball rolling.

I can’t stress enough the importance of having a vision. Create one for yourself by the end of the day and don’t continue to the following steps of the process until you have one. Taking action is important, but without a vision you won’t go very far. You can drive for as long as you want, but if you don’t know where you’re going you’ll never get there.

Step Two Use Your Pain As Leverage

When you’re coming from a dark place it’s important to use your pain as leverage rather than as an excuse for why you can’t do something. You’re going to get whatever you tolerate. As long as you can accept being a fat, lazy loser that’s going to be the reality you experience.

Change requires you to be uncomfortable with your current circumstances. You have to hate being antisocial or fat or whatever your problem is more than anything else. When you get to the point that change is your only choice, when failure and losing are no longer options, that’s the day your life is going to change.

To help maintain motivation for change keep your life purpose and vision in mind constantly. Also remember that losing weight, improving your career, or whatever you working on isn’t just about you. And if it is, you’ll fail.

Although your motivation will ultimately originate from you, it doesn’t need to be about you. Writing this blog post may improve my writing skills and help organize my thoughts, but ultimately I’m creating this because I want to help you change your life.

If you’re really depressed you may reach a state where you’re so messed up you’re unable to draw motivation from within yourself. At one point in my life I was so lost that I didn’t even care about myself anymore, but because I still cared about others I was able to escape rock bottom.

Whether it’s losing weight so you can live to see your grandchildren, or developing social skills so you can make the girl of your dreams happy, find someone outside of yourself that touches your heart, and will motivate you to keep going when nothing else will.

Step Three Craft Your Environment

Although changing your environment doesn’t guarantee the changing of your results, it’s a huge help. Regardless of your level of discipline, if you’re an alcoholic you’re going to struggle staying sober if you continue going to the bar with other alcoholics.

There’s two important things to consider when crafting an environment conductive to your success. First, the things. And second, the people. We’ll focus on crafting the things in your environment to your advantage first.

Most people think the best way to eat healthier is through massive discipline and an unruly amount of will power. That’s wrong.

In truth, excessive resistance simply means your values don’t align with your goals. When this occurs you have two choices. You can change your values or you can change your goals.

In the case of healthy eating changing your values is the better choice. If you struggle to eat healthy food there’s a misalignment in your values that’s causing you to believe that eating the unhealthy foods is the preferable option.

There are two causes of misaligned values. Misinformation, and no information.

The most common cause of misinformation comes in the form of mainstream media. It strengthens limiting beliefs such as the overemphasis of security in our lives, as well as under stressing the importance of following your dreams.

On the other hand lies no information. Maybe you know college isn’t for you, but if you’ve never read books or seen shows about entrepreneurs or those following a non standard career path you’d probably go anyway simply because you didn’t know there was another option.

Regardless, the most important thing you can do is expose yourself to positive forms of input. This blog is a good start, but gradually reduce the amount of mainstream media you expose yourself, and instead read books, and listen to motivational podcasts instead.

Going back to the the person who eats unhealthy foods, the reason they’re unable to stop is because doing so wouldn’t align with their current values. Fortunately, once they expose themselves to more positive forms of input, and educate themselves their values will change and eating unhealthy food would actually be MORE difficult.

However, in the case of unhealthy eating, some detox period may be necessary for a food addict’s brain to be able to think clearly enough to use that information. In that case I’d recommend simply refusing to bring unhealthy food home.

You can’t eat sweets if there’s none at your house. If you can’t stop buying junk food have a family member do the shopping. If your family members eat junk food too bring a friend with you whenever you go to the store and have them hold you accountable.

If you care enough about making the change you’ll find some way to craft your environment to making it the only option. If it’s not important to you you’ll find an excuse.

Besides the media you expose yourself to, another important thing to keep in mind are the places you hang out. If you’re trying to stop drinking going to the bar is the stupidest thing you can do.

On the flip-side, going to the library to read books about addiction or positive thinking would be one of the smartest things you could do. Before you go somewhere always ask yourself, “Would I be ok with doing the activity typically associated with this place?”

Of course just things, places and the media you expose yourself to aren’t everything. The people you associate with are likely even more influential in your life.

It’s nearly impossible to become a positive person when you hang out with negative people. Even if they aren’t actively attempting to prevent you from improving your life, their mere presence alone will hinder you ability to be optimistic. Whoever said you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with wasn’t lying.

If you want to reach a new level in life you need to be willing to let go of your current relationships. It can be scary to do so if you’ve identified with those people for a long time, but it’s necessary. You’ll never get anything better as long as your hands are full with what you already have.

Of course, once you drop your current social circle you can’t rely on positive people to magically show up in your life. You need to actively create these relationships.

Starting a blog, or interacting with successful people on Twitter may be a start, but it’s even more important you cultivate these relationships in the real world.

If you’re trying to become a better public speaker or improve your social skills join Toastmaster’s. If you’re trying to lose weight join a gym or running group. Regardless of your goal you’ll find your progress accelerate once you’re surrounded by people compatible with it.

Step Four Implement The First Habit

For most people I’d recommend focusing on the physical body for your first habit. Obviously this will allow you to feel better, but I’ve found that doing so will also provide you with increased mental clarity and a much improved ability to implement future habits.

I think ideally you’d focus on eating healthier, but if you’re more confident in your ability to exercise you can choose to do that as your first habit instead.

Regardless of what habit you choose to implement, the most important advice I can give you is to start small.

If you’re trying to eat healthier just replace the chips in your lunch with carrots for the first week. If you’re trying to make exercise a habit do ten jumping jacks every morning.

If you’re able to effectively use your pain as leverage you’ll likely feel motivated to do more. DON’T. The short term results of doing a few extra jumping jacks vs solidifying exercise as a habit in your life isn’t worth it.

Through out this whole process we’re not even concerned about the immediate results you’re getting. Ten jumping jack per day is probably going to do literally nothing for your fitness.

What we’re really focusing on here is creating positive habits you can build on and changing the negative downward spiral you’re in into a positive upward spiral.

You see, the problem with most people is that they’re in a downward spiral. They eat bad food which causes them to feel lethargic, which causes them to passively watch television, which exposes them to negative social conditioning, which only serves to further reinforce the cycle.

Fortunately you can consciously work to reverse this cycle. Eating healthier food will give you energy to exercise, which will give you even more energy, which will allow you to work harder in the other areas of you life, which will serve to further reinforce the cycle.

Once you make a small change in your life, you’ll have both momentum and more discipline to tackle bigger challenges down the road.

Of course, this brings up an important question. What if you’re not able to make the first change?

At this point you have two options. You can start even smaller, or you can go back to step three and do a better job of crafting your environment to put yourself into situations where you’ll have no choice but to change.

Step Five Implement Bigger Habits

If you’ve made it this far give yourself a pat on the back. Your life may not seem different at this point, but it is. Sure, a habit of doing ten jumping jacks a day may not have produced much in the form of results, but it’s HUGE. You know why?

Because you now understand change is possible and that you’re capable of it. You’ve shown yourself that you posses the ability to build new habits. Although you may not yet have the discipline to go the gym for an hour each day, you’re likely strong enough to do twenty-five jumping jacks or go for a run around the block everyday.

And maybe next week you’ll be ready to run for ten minutes everyday. By the end of the month you could be running twenty minutes a day and more importantly you’ll have established it as a habit and done it in a sustainable way.

Next month you can focus on your diet, and the month after that you can work on your sleep habits or social skills. With each month you’ll build more and more momentum, and you’ll find that although it’s still important to start small with new habits it isn’t necessary to start as small as you once did.

You’ll enter the important upward spiral and you’ll it easier to continue making changes in your life. You’ll never be able to go on autopilot and coast, but you’ll find less resistance with each new habit you attempt to implement.

Step Six Continue The Journey

Let’s fast forward a bit now. You’ve made some significant changes in your life, and are feeling better than ever. You may have lost some weight or even got a new girlfriend or career. Now what?

Enjoy it, but don’t ever be satisfied. You’ve put in the work so take some time to appreciate the fruits of your labor, but at the same time, stay hungry. A lot of people who become successful end up reverting to their old ways. Why?

Because they think success is a destination. They think once they become successful they can take it easy. Unfortunately success isn’t something you are, it’s something you do. Once you stop putting in the work you’re going to stop getting the results.

Once you begin making positive changes in your life you will have an upward spiral on your side to some extent, but understand that regardless of how much momentum you have, you’ll never be able to go on autopilot.

Once you stop putting yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable and force you to adapt you’ll stagnate and slowly regress to what you once were.

The best piece of advice I can give you in maintaining motivation is to have a purpose that inspires you. Whether you want to be the world’s greatest rapper, basketball player, or even father is irrelevant. All that matters is that you find something that motivates you to be your very best everyday.

Somedays you’ll lack motivation and have to grit your teeth to get things done, but wouldn’t you rather learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable than have to look back at your dreams one day and wonder what if?

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This post was written by me, 16 year old Cameron Chardukian. This article’s close to my heart because it discusses the strategies I used to turn my own life around. I’m trying to help as many people as possible so it would mean the world to me if you shared this article with anyone you believe it would help.

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The Moment You Feel Like Quitting

“’Cause sometimes you feel tired,

feel weak, and when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.

But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength

and just pull that shit out of you and get that motivation to not give up

and not be a quitter, no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.” ~Eminem (from the song Till I Collapse)

The difference between the average person and the successful one is how they react in the moment they feel like quitting. The average person will quit as soon as they feel like it, but a nearly universal trait among successful people is their ability to push through this discomfort.

Yesterday I was practicing my public speaking and seeing how long I could talk off the cuff for. For the first dozen or so attempts I plateaued at about a minute. I was tired and my apparent inability to talk longer than that really discouraged me.

My motivation was nonexistent and at the time focusing on anything for longer than three seconds seemed impossible. I wanted to quit more than anything else. But I didn’t.

I knew that although I showed up, I hadn’t fully exhausted myself so I made the commitment to take one more recording. I hadn’t expected much after the previous dozen plateaued at about a minute each, but on my final attempt I manage to talk for eleven minutes straight.

I can’t tell you why things seem to happen this day, but I’ve found that in the moments I feel the least motivated, I’m often able to get the best results if I’m willing to show up.

Of course, telling you not to quit is easy. Actually refusing to do so is much more difficult so here’s some things to keep in my mind when you feel like giving up.

What You Have To Lose. If you’re running to get in shape think about all the things you’d be missing out on if you quit. Imagine gaining weight, feeling unhealthy, and not being able to look at yourself in mirror.

What You Have To Gain. If you’re writing a blog article and you feel like quitting resist the temptation to do so. If you’re able to finish the article you’ll feel more confident for pushing yourself past your limits, add another article to your archive, and likely help many people in the process.

Your Past. Think about how you felt the last time you gave up on yourself. You probably felt pretty low. Now imagine the last time you got out of your comfort zone and pushed yourself past your limits. You probably felt awesome right? Now decide which way you plan to feel next.

If you still lack motivation after doing those three things then stop thinking about not wanting to do “x” and just do it. If you think about it too long you’ll make justifications in your head about why it’s not that important, and why you don’t need to do it.

Above all, remember that refusing to quit the moment you feel like it will be the difference between success and mediocrity.

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There’s More To Life Than Work

You can’t operate at 100% efficiency 100% of the time. I’ve tried. All it leads to is burn out and disappointment. More than that, however, I’m not sure why you’d want to.

Something I really don’t like about the productivity movement is people misinterpret it and turn themselves into robots. Despite common belief, productivity isn’t about checking the most things off your to-do list.

It’s not about working yourself to death. Ultimately, what productivity’s really about is learning to spend your time optimally in pursuits you deem to be worthwhile.

In other words, productivity is learning to live in accordance with your values to the max. Developing the discipline to spend every moment doing what’s most important to you.

The work you do, and things you produce are important, but they’re not everything. Similarly cultivating fulfilling relationships is important as well, but it’s not the end all be all either. It’s all about balance.

I’ve found that although working hard is extremely fulfilling to me, it’s satisfying in a very different way than spending time with amazing people. Both fulfill different needs, but at the same time complement each other.

Working hard puts pressure on me to improve everyday and gives a greater appreciation of everything else in life. On the flip side things like socializing allow me to enjoy myself and de-stress, experience growth in a different way, and refuel my capacity to work hard.

If you really enjoy your work as I do it can be tempting to spend all your time on it, but I’d recommend against that. You may be able to get away with it for some period of time, but you’ll eventually crash. It’s just not sustainable.

My recommendation to you is to spend ten minutes today consciously evaluating how you spend your time, and how that aligns with your values. After you’ve done that determine how you could be spending your time “more productively” and begin to implement those changes in your life today.

It’s a simple exercise, but if you haven’t done it before I guarantee you’ll be surprised by the results. Try it, and let me know your results in the comments.

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