Complaining is one of the worst habits you could possibly have.  Even the most positive people complain on occasion, but most people complain waaay too much.

I’m not going to complain about complainers because that would only contribute to the negativity, but realize all complaining does is contribute to feelings of discontent and helplessness.

Complaining about how you’re fat, lonely, and depressed does nothing to solve the problem, if anything it makes it worse.

By complaining you’re giving your power away.  By complaining you’re telling the universe that you’re not ready to take responsibility for your life.

Another negative effect of complaining is that you’ll attract more negativity into your life, potentially spiraling yourself into a whole negative cycle.

Consistent complaining is one of the main reason depressed people find it so difficult to find any happiness in life.

They’ve spent so much time complaining that they’ve manifested a reality that matches their negative thoughts, and because they’ve conditioned themselves to think so negatively, they can’t even appreciate any remaining remnants of positivity left in their lives.

For the most part people complain because they’re afraid to take responsibility for their lives, but once they begin to hold themselves accountable they’ll be a lot happier.

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Irrational Fears

I find fear very interesting.  On one hand it’s helped ensure the survival of the human race as we’ve evolved, but in modern times it’s often used as an excuse to justify not pursuing what we really want.

Don’t get me wrong, if I’m in the jungle getting chased by a lion I want to have my adrenaline pumping and be scared out of my mind.  I think survival fear for the most part is a good thing.

That’s not the fear I’m talking about.  I’m talking about fear of success, fear of public speaking, fear of not being good enough.  I’m talking about fears that have no rational basis in reality.

I first had the idea of starting a personal development blog almost two years ago.

I had hit rock bottom in my life a few months prior, and as I became more interested in personal development I felt extremely motivated to share my experiences and insights to help other people grow.

I was so motivated I did absolutely nothing.  For two whole years.  Why?  Irrational fears.  What if my friends think I’m nerdy?  What if they make fun of me?  What if people think I’m not cool?

For anyone truly growth oriented those are pathetic excuses.  So what if your friends think you’re nerdy or they make fun of you?

You should be grateful for the opportunity to eliminate those people from your life.  Better to get rid of them now than later.  You won’t have truly fulfilling relationships until you can let go of the people who won’t accept you for what you are.

As I continued my journey of personal growth I began to worry less about others opinions, but I continued to make irrational justifications for why I shouldn’t blog.

The biggest one was that I had no way to self-host or get a custom domain.  How was I supposed to look professional blogging at instead of

Obviously I’d still prefer to blog at but using that as an excuse to not blog at all would be stupid.  Even if I’m not blogging under ideal circumstances it’s still infinitely better than doing nothing.

There’s this strange human instinct that tells us that everything has to be all or nothing.  While I don’t encourage settling, wouldn’t you rather get something instead of nothing?

People have this tendency to make every little excuse or justification but they’d get infinitely better results just facing their fears.

If you want to quit your job quit.  If you want to lose weight start exercising.  If you want to speak a foreign language start learning today.

You are good enough.  You are smart enough.  But if you want the results you need to face your fears.

The time will never be right until you make it the right time.

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Why I Love Everyone

There’s not a single person I hate.  Is that strange? I’m sure to most people it may seem so, and I definitely would have said the same of this mindset a couple years ago.  Now, however, I see it as the only logical outlook on life.

I’ve found that the main reason many people sink to the level of hatred is because of a lack of understanding.  Few people understand that not a single person wants to be hated.

Nobody wants to be the bad guy.  Nobody wants to be the person with no friends.  Nobody wants to feel alone and unloved.

The actions of some may give off this impression but truthfully nobody wants to live like that.  When we seek to understand the perspective of others instead of judging them we develop a greater understanding for why they act in the manner they do.

One of the more common beliefs these people hold is that they aren’t good enough.  I held this belief for a number of years myself and with this belief came the feeling that nobody could love me for who I am.

Since then I’ve come to terms with myself, but I haven’t forgotten where I came from.  I still remember what it’s like to feel inadequate.

People don’t wake up in the morning consciously plotting to ruin others days.   They do it because subconsciously they believe that’s the only way anyone will pay any attention to them.

Deep down everyone has a good heart. Everybody wants to be loved. Some people may be misguided, but none of them are evil.

Don’t judge, seek to understand and love everyone.

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First Post

I just got the blog up and running.  I plan on using this blog to write about various topics within the field of personal development.  Stay tuned for some interesting posts in the next few days.

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