Talking About Your Dreams vs Living Them

Lately I’ve been struggling to create anything. In June I posted nearly everyday and laughed at people who used writer’s block as an excuse. Now it feels like I’m a slave to writer’s block. I can’t think of original things to tweet, let alone write entire blog posts about. What happened? I allowed myself to get too comfortable.

I’ve fallen into a stale daily routine where I fail to challenge myself. Sure, I’ve stretched myself socially more than ever before, going out 4-5 nights per week, but that’s refreshing. Those 20 hours of play each week should allow me to get MORE done. But they haven’t.

All I’ve accomplished over the last few days is putting in my daily two hours of juggling practice, and writing ONE blog post. That’s it. I haven’t gone out, I haven’t made any new videos, I haven’t even tried anything new. ALL I’ve done over the last two days is sit curled up on the couch reading.

That ends here. I’ve seen too many people fail to reach their potential because they were satisfied with just tasting success. I refuse to be one of them. Even my least productive days may be ahead of most people my age, but I refuse to accept that as an excuse.

Average is meaningless to me. I’m trying to become the greatest motivator this world has ever seen. I’m trying to create a legacy. Talk is cheap though. Until I learn to become comfortable with being uncomfortable that’s merely a pipe dream. A fantasy.

It’s easy to talk about your dreams. It’s easy to close your eyes and see them. But it’s another thing to put in more work than anyone else. To keep pushing further when everyone else has given up. To do what you’re supposed to do no matter how tired you are.

Talk is cheap. Everyone can talk about their dreams, but few will ever put in the work to live them. Will you?

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What You Broadcast To The World

The quickest way to build a support system more conductive to your goals is to change what you’re broadcasting to the world.

I hear a LOT of girls complaining about how guys are after them only for their bodies. Well guess what hoebags? It’s true, and YOU DESERVE IT.

When 90% of the pictures you post online are half naked selfies you’re broadcasting to the world you’re desperate for attention and have low self-esteem. It’s not a coincidence the same douchebags keep hitting you up.

The universe doesn’t care about the things you want. The only thing it considers are your actions. If you’re actions demand a certain type of guy that’s what the universe is going to bring you.

The same can be said of any other goal. If you use words like “maybe,” “hopefully,” and “someday” when talking about your goals people aren’t going to want to spend energy helping you pursue them. Why? Because you’re broadcasting doubt.

People are busy, and if you’re not 100% committed to you goals why would they take any interest? Think of it this way, if you received these two emails and only had time to help one of these people who would you pick?

Dear, _____

I suck at socializing. I haven’t had a friend in years and I’ll probably never make another one. I love your advice, but I just can’t do it. I think the world’s against me. I saw a pretty girl at the mall yesterday, but I was too scared to talk to her. I cried last night and I don’t even know if it’s worth it to try anymore. Why are people always jerks to me? How do I make people like me?

Dear, _____

I’ve been a lonely introvert my whole life, but I’ve been using your advice to become more social. It’s been difficult, but I’m taking consistent action and I can see myself slowly improving. I tried saying hi to a girl at the mall yesterday, but she laughed at me. I felt bad, but I understand pain is part of the process and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to develop my social skills. Do you know why the girl laughed at me? How can I improve my social calibration?

See the difference? If you send me the first email it’s probably not going to get a response. I’d love to help you, but since my time is finite I’m not going to waste it giving advice to people who are unlikely to ever use it. Advice without application is useless.

The reason I’d be willing to help the second person is because I’d expect them to respect my time and actually apply the advice.

Wrap-Up

  • Changing what you broadcast to the world is the quickest way to change your support system.
  • It doesn’t matter what you want, the universe only cares about your actions.
  • Broadcasting confidence and commitment will improve your support system.
  • Advice without application is useless.
  • If people don’t expect you to apply their advice they won’t even bother to give it.

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Haters

One of the most important life lessons I’ve ever learned is you can fit in, or you can stand out. You can’t do both. The moment you decide to start improving your life you’re going to start attracting haters.

A lot of people will get offended when they see you making positive changes in your life because it makes them look bad. These people will attempt to bring you down to their level in order to preserve their ego. They’ll tell you you’re being unrealistic and that you should just give up because you’ll never amount to anything.

Don’t worry about them though. It’s unintelligent to focus on what the haters are saying for two reasons.

  1. Basing your self-worth on the words of others is stupid because it’s a variable entirely out of your control. Understand that you can’t be everything to everybody. Stop worrying about what other people think. Focus on your actions rather than their reactions.
  2. You know yourself better than anyone else. Nobody can estimate the heights you’re capable reaching more accurately than you. If you have a goal that resonates with every cell of your body and you know you can achieve it, that’s all that matters. Everything else is irrelevant.

Another problem with haters is people tend to focus on them too much. I see a lot of people attempting to do something not because they care or are passionate about it, but simply because they want to prove the haters wrong. What are the problems with that you ask?

  1. If you’re not passionate about a goal you should make a new one. If you’re not willing to do whatever it takes to reach your current goal you’re probably not going to achieve it. Even if you’re able to accomplish your goal, however, if you’re not passionate about it, reaching it will be unsatisfying and won’t matter to you.
  2. Even if you’re passionate about a goal BECAUSE of the haters, it’s still stupid to pursue a goal for that purpose. For one, drawing satisfaction from proving others wrong is the result of misaligned values. Even if you disagree with that statement, however, proving the haters wrong is still a fruitless endeavor because by the time you reach “x” goal, the haters will have already forgotten about you and moved onto something new to trash talk.

I’m going to conclude here with a little analogy (in my own words) I heard from Eric Thomas.

Haters are like mouse traps. All the mice understand that they’re deadly, but sometimes they get too caught up in the cheese, and then Snaaap! They get caught, and they don’t realize it until it’s too late.

Don’t get caught up in the cheese, or you’re going to fall into the trap too. Let the haters talk, let them set their traps. As long as you focus on yourself and refuse to get caught up in the cheese you have nothing to worry about.

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When Is It Time For New Goals?

When is it time for new goals? When you’re no longer willing to do whatever it takes to reach your current ones. Taking action towards your goals shouldn’t feel like a chore. It should be something you want to do.

I take 2-3 days off juggling every month for recovery purposes, but other than that I couldn’t tell you the last time I missed a practice.

I remember (I believe it was) Kevin Durant saying he hates the three day vacation his family makes him take every offseason. He says he can literally feel himself going insane during those three days without basketball.

A common misperception of goal achievement is that you should be facing a lot of resistance while pursuing your goals. That’s wrong. Excessive resistance simply means your values and goals don’t line up well.

That’s not to say pursuing your goals should be easy and effortless, rather chasing them should be similar to a long distance runner doing a marathon. Reaching your goals may be difficult, but when you’ve set the right goals you’ll enjoy the process and draw constant inspiration from the finish line.

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Does Anything Matter?

One day life on Earth is going to end. I’ll probably be long gone by that point, but it’s strange to think that both my contribution to the world as well as my legacy will one day be nonexistent. When that day comes everything I’ve ever created or done to improve the world will be irrelevant. Or will it?

I’ll be honest, I’m not even going to pretend to have all the answers. I’m just as clueless as you are. However, I think through reading my observations you’ll be able find several thoughts that resonate with you. By internalizing these ideas you’ll likely find yourself with more clarity regarding the manner with which you wish to live your life.

The Human Race Will Likely Cease To Exist At Some Point

I think this is the one of the biggest things people think about when trying to see if any of their actions are significant. We all know that at some point the sun is going to burn out and Earth is going to die along with it.

However, what people don’t talk about is the fact that the sun still has a few billion good years left. While it’s possible the destruction of Earth could also be the end of us I don’t think it’s likely.

I have to imagine that with a few billion years of technological advances behind us we’ll have plenty of other places to live. I think the sun is almost irrelevant to our long-term survival. It’s one of the last things we should be worrying about.

I think something that’s far more likely to cause the extinction of our species is World War III. Realistically we’re almost guaranteed to have another worldwide conflict within the next several hundred years.

As technology and war weaponry continues to improve it’s entirely possible and even plausible that a weapon capable of destroying the whole planet will be created. I think to deny this would be overly optimistic and wishful thinking.

Once such a weapon is created that’s it. Adios. Sayonara. Good-bye. All of us know that once this weapon exists there’s bound to be some nutcase crazy enough to pull the trigger.

I’m not a technology expert, but I think it’s likely we’ll invent a weapon capable of destroying Earth before we have the technology necessary to sustain life on other planets and universes. My whole point is mute if such technology were to exist, but once again I think it’s likely it’ll have been invented too late.

I think the only way to guarantee the continuation of our species is diversifying the human race. As long as we live on just one planet we’re vulnerable. We need to find a way of sustaining life on other planets and galaxies. As long as we are vulnerable, however, it brings up another important question.

Does The Extinction Of The Human Race Nullify Your Contributions To The World?

Initially I felt this question depended heavily on the belief system you subscribed to, but now I believe that regardless of your beliefs it’s a resounding yes.

Atheists

If you’re an atheist you’re probably skeptical of that last statement, but I’ll explain. While the extinction of the human race will destroy your legacy, and the people who have benefited from your contributions, it doesn’t make the time those same people benefited from your contributions any less important.

Imagine having a kid with cancer. Regardless of your thoughts on the afterlife you’re still going to do EVERYTHING you can to make your child’s life the best it can possibly be. Why? Because even if they die and fade into nothingness they’re still your child and you want them to cherish every moment they have on Earth.

That’s how I see society in general. The future generation is my baby and I’m going to do everything in my power to give them the gift of joy. Even if their time is limited I want them to be able to love life, and appreciate every moment as much as they possibly can.

God/Reincarnation

If you believe in God or reincarnation I think your contributions to the world are even more important. Besides helping people during their time on Earth you’ll have improved their afterlife as well.

If you believe in God this may mean helping people make more conscious decisions. Your contribution to their life may mean the difference between them going to Heaven or Hell.

If you believe in reincarnation perhaps you hold the belief that people keep coming back to Earth until they’ve reached a high enough level of consciousness to enjoy everlasting peace in the afterlife. By making contributions to the world you may be able to decrease the number of lifetimes it takes them to reach that state of Nirvana.

If you don’t believe in Nirvana perhaps you believe people reincarnate simply for the experience. If you hold this belief why not make Earth a better place anyway and help people enjoy their time here to the fullest? Who knows, you may even be able to benefit from your own contributions in a future life.

Subjective-Reality

I think the one belief system with a hint of grey area is subjective reality. For those not familiar with the term it’s basically the idea that you are the sole conscious and everyone else is merely a projection of your conscious.

We all assume that just because we can talk to people and interact with them that they’re conscious. But do you have any proof of that? Couldn’t this whole reality simply be occurring within the depths of your own mind? After all, our own dreams often seem more real than reality itself…

I’m somewhat of a believer in subjective-reality myself. Knowing other people were conscious would provide me great comfort, but I’ve seen too many strange syncronicities and manifestations in my own life to believe it.

The problem with subjective-reality is it’s extremely difficult to determine whether your contributions hold any significance. If I help a homeless guy turn his life around does it matter if he’s not even a real conscious being? If he’s merely a projection of my own consciousness does it matter whether I help him?

When you’re dreaming does it matter whether you help the other dream characters? It’s an extremely complex issue, but as of now I’m leaning toward yes. I think that by helping these projections I’ll also be healing myself to some extent.

I can’t see why I’d be projecting people with these problems if I didn’t need to address them to some extent myself. This introduces a far greater issue, however.

Personal Growth And Enjoyment vs Contribution And Helping Others

I enjoy helping others, but it doesn’t stretch my comfort zone like the pursument of my own personal growth. It’s far easier for me to help people solve their problems rather than work on mine.

The issue, however, is if I’m living in a subjective reality isn’t it more important for me to be working on my personal development? Helping others may also help me to some extent, but I definitely feel more growth occurring when I’m working on my own problems.

I’ve spent the last several days stretching myself socially and I’ve had an absolute blast and experienced a lot of personal growth in the process. Some part of me, however, felt guilt for focusing solely on myself these last several days.

I know I could become the next Tony Robbins and help millions of people improve their lives, but I feel that doing so would provide me with less opportunities to pursue my own personal development.

I’ve spent a lot of time debating this, but I think I’ve found a solution to this issue. If I knew with 100% certainty that this reality was a subjective one I’d focus almost entirely on my own personal growth.

But because there’s no way of confirming that I’ll simply find the overlap between the pursument of my own personal growth and making a contribution to the world. I really think this is the ideal solution.

I can still go on amazing adventures and do crazy experiments, but by writing and speaking about them I’ll be making a contribution to the world that lots of people will be able to benefit from. That brings us back to the question,

Does Anything Matter?

To which I must answer a resounding yes. I truly believe that regardless of your belief system YOU are significant, the things YOU do are important, and YOU DO MATTER.

I’m really interested in hearing your thoughts on this one. What do you think about our lives? Are we significant, or are we just a tiny speck in a universe of infinite time and space? Let me know what you think in the comments. 🙂

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10 Problems With Personal Development

I love personal development.  It changed the whole course of my life.  Before I discovered it I was depressed and at times suicidal.  These days I’m the happiest person I know.  With that being said, as much as I love personal development, there’s also several problems with it.

1.  Faking Progress

One of the biggest problems with personal development is it’s easy to delude yourself into thinking you’re improving as a person when you’re not.  I see a lot of people thinking they’re going to make progress simply by consuming an endless amount of personal development material.  Heck, for a long time I was one of them.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.  Your life isn’t going to improve unless you proactively take actions in improving it.  Your internal and external realities are codependent.  If one isn’t improving, it’s very likely you’re deluding yourself and the other one isn’t either.

2.  The Search Of The Magical Method

Another common issue with personal development is the endless pursuit of the magical method.  The technique that will result in effortless growth and abundance the rest of your life.

I hate to be the one to say it, but the magical method doesn’t exist!  Real growth is painful. That’s why most people choose to avoid it.  Real growth isn’t about finding some special technique that’s going to change your life.  It’s about overcoming your fears and making the commitment to always face the truth no matter how painful it may be.

3.  Clueless Teachers

These days anyone can make a blog or publish an ebook.  It requires no credentials.  This is good because it creates opportunities and allows more ideas to be spread, but there’s several drawbacks to this as well.

You may be able to get advice on any problem one could possibly have, but it’s difficult to determine the validity of that advice.  It’s easy to tell if someone’s the real deal if you’ve been reading their blog for years, but if you’re reading a random website or looking through answers people have left on a forum, you have no way to tell if they know what they’re talking about.

4.  All Work And No Play

In the personal development community there’s a HUGE emphasis on being productive, and “getting things done.”  There’s plenty of great advice for the professional aspect of your life, but a lot of personal development material neglects, or skips over your personal life entirely.

Being productive is great, but it’s also important to realize that more hours isn’t necessarily better.  If you refuse to socialize or take time off on occasion you won’t be getting optimal results.  Besides missing out on some of the best experiences life has to offer your work life’s going to suffer as well.

You’re going to constantly find yourself procrastinating and your stress levels are going to go through the roof.  We all have different workloads we’re capable of managing, but it’s important to realize nobody’s able to give everything they’ve got 100% of the time.

5.  Insecurity

Another problem with personal development is that there’s always something else to fix.  People get caught up in having to fix “x” and “y” and then by the time they do there’s something else that needs improvement.

This isn’t so much a problem with the industry as much as it is the people interested in personal development, however, it’s a huge reason why many people who became interested in personal development due to low self-esteem are never able to shake their feelings of inadequacy.

There needs to be more of an emphasis on self-acceptance.  It’s natural to seek improvement, but as long as you’re making forward progress towards your goals there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to love yourself for who you are today.

6.  Thinking You’re Smarter Than Everyone Else

This is a huge problem I just began addressing in my own life a couple months ago.  I thought I didn’t a need sickening work ethic to be successful just because I had consumed a MASSIVE amount of personal development information.  I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s believed that at some point.

The only problem is intelligence without action means nothing.  I still think I’m super intelligent, but I’ve also come to realize something.  People don’t care how smart you are.  All they care about is that you can provide them value and improve their lives.

7.  Nitpicking

The little brother of faking progress is nitpicking.  Overanalyzing little things to your own detriment.  At one point in my life I became such a nitpicker that I spent more energy researching natural toothpastes and deodorants than my exercise routine.

Yeah I know, pathetic.  A bit on the extreme side as well, but I’m sure others have fallen into the same trap as well.  It’s a lot easier to take action on a “10 body care products you need to stop using,” article than generating the courage to tackle a big life issue you’ve been neglecting.

8.  Growth Isn’t Linear

One of the biggest misconceptions in the field of personal development is that growth is linear. I’m here to tell you it’s not. You don’t make progress on your goals and become a better person every single day.  It’s not like the video games.

There’s going to be weeks where you’re on a roll, and you’re making massive progress on your goals.  Then out of nowhere, you’re going to lose all your momentum and you’re going to question whether your goals are even worth pursuing.

The important thing is to realize that motivation comes and goes.  No matter how good or bad you feel it’s going to pass.  True growth requires learning how to maximize the good times and minimize the bad as well as understanding how to manage yourself in both.

9.  Personal Development Isn’t Easy

Once again, I don’t like being the pessimistic jerk, but I hate that most personal development gurus insist on making everything sound easy.  Look, if you’re going to embark on the journey towards living your dreams you deserve the truth.

It’s not going to be all sunshine and rainbows.  You’re going to fall down and you’re probably going to get kicked too.  I don’t mean to discourage you, but it’s important to understand it’s not going to be a smooth ride.

With that being said, having the courage to pursue personal growth is the most rewarding thing you’ll ever do.  It’s also the most difficult thing you’ll ever do, but if you’re 100% committed and willing to do whatever it takes to grow, you’ll succeed.

10.  Reader’s Contribution

I’d love to hear from you about what I’ve missed.  What’s the biggest problem you’ve seen with personal development?  Leave a comment below and share this article if you enjoyed it.  Let’s get a discussion going and see what we can do to address some of these problems. 🙂

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The Problem With Just One More Time

is it never ends up being just one more time.  If you’re overweight and you eat just one more cookie, it’ll have almost no effect on your weight.  The problem is eating that one more cookie trains your body to eat one more cookie.

If someone offers you a cookie tomorrow you’ll be even more likely to eat it than today because that’s what you’ve conditioned yourself to do.

When you give into a bad habit it’s not doing it one time that’s going to kill you.  It’s the cementing of it as part of your identity that will.

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Horcruxes

Immortality’s an interesting thing.  It’s incredible how far people are willing to go in pursuit of it.  Take Voldemort for example.

For those not familiar with the Harry Potter series, there’s things called Horcruxes which are objects in which you’ve hidden part of your soul.  The more Horcruxes one creates the closer they become to reaching true immortality.

On the flip-side, however, when one creates a Horcrux their soul mutilates and they become less human both emotionally and physically.  Each time one creates a Horcrux they become more immortal, but at the same time less alive.

The reason this is important is it’s not just something that occurs in an imaginary magic world.  We can’t create Horcruxes through the act of murder like Voldemort does, but everyone on Earth splits their soul to some extent.  We may not pursue immortality, but each of us creates little Horcruxes of our own just the same.

Relationships are the best example of this.  We often prevent ourselves from fully opening up to others because we’re afraid of getting hurt.  It’s difficult to pour your heart into someone when you’ve been hurt in the past, but you’ll never experience true love until you do.

By putting a wall around yourself and never letting others in you may never lose.  You may never get hurt.  But you’ll never win or experience positive emotions either.

The roller coaster of life may have its ups downs, but it’s a wonderful ride if you’re willing to experience it.  You’ll occasionally hit bumps, but even so, it’s much better than being numb and not being able to feel anything.

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My Secrets To Being Confident

You know what’s attractive? Confidence.  Walking into a room and knowing you’re the one running the show. Knowing that everything that comes out of your mouth is gold, and everyone that gets to linger in your presence is blessed.  It’s been said that when people like Michael Jackson walk into a room everyone stops what they’re doing and the whole energy of the room changes.

I’ve been called arrogant, but that’s how I feel whenever I walk through the door.  I suffered from low self-esteem in the past, but I actually consider that a blessing.  I learned a lot from that time period and it’s helped shape me into who I am today.

I still have the occasional moment of insecurity as I’m sure everyone does, but for the most part I feel like I’m magnetic and when I walk through the door the whole energy of the room changes.  Over the last few years I’ve learned a lot about confidence and I’d like to share with you my secrets to being confident.

1.  Don’t put up with bullshit excuses

Excuses are for pricks.  If you want to be confident you need to stop using them as crutches.  I don’t care if it’s raining outside.  If you’re serious about losing weight you’ll go for your run.

I don’t care if you suffer from social anxiety, if you’re trying to improve your social skills there’s no way around talking to people.

Being in good shape, and having social skills are great for confidence, but they’re just examples and actually not necessary.  They’re not means to an end.

Looking good is one reason exercise makes you confident, but it’s not the only thing.  The biggest reason working out makes you confident is it shows you you’re not willing to let bullshit excuses keep you from what you want.

2.  Do what you say you’re going to do

If you say you’re going to quit eating junk food, cheating shouldn’t even be an option.  If you say you’re going to give a speech, or you tell someone you’re going to run a marathon, you sure as hell better be doing it.

In everything you do failure should never be an option.  Success has to be your only option.  When you decide you’re going to do something you shouldn’t “hope it’s going to happen.”  Cause it won’t.  When you commit to something you should have an unshakable belief that it’s going to eventually manifest itself into reality.

Once you decide you’re going to do something your commitment should be so unwavering that it’s already effectively done.  The actual doing of the task should be a mere formality.

3.  Keep Things 100% Real

If a girl you’re talking to is interested in something, but you think it’s completely lame don’t pretend to be into it.  Obviously you don’t need to be a dick about it, but you’ll quickly realize that everyone loses when someone’s only pretending to be engaged in a conversation.

If you disagree with what someone said feel free to voice your opinion.  Don’t be so desperate to please everyone that you become a pushover.  At the same time don’t be the annoying guy who turns every little debate into a massive argument.  Pick your battles and be willing to agree to disagree.

Finally, don’t put on a fake persona.  Be authentic in everything you do.  I’ve found that trying to be cool is actually the worst way to gain confidence and experience social abundance.

The problem with trying to be cool is even if you put on a good show and get into the “popular group,” you won’t have fulfilling relationships there.  For one the majority of popular kids are wearing a mask themselves, but more than that if you can’t be yourself around others you’ll never be able to truly enjoy yourself.

I’ve found that being completely present to the moment and expressing who you really are is huge in developing social abundance.  It attracts people with similar interests and compatible personalities.

More than that, however, you can enjoy complete spontaneity without having to worry about censoring yourself.  Nothing brings greater confidence than being 100% authentic and having the courage to tell people they can accept you as you are or get out of your life.

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Intelligent Sleep Deprivation

I’m a big fan of consistent sleep patterns. It’s easier for me to wake up in the morning, and I feel much better when I’m going to sleep and waking up at the same time everyday.

With that being said I’ve also found that being excessively stubborn with maintaining your sleep schedule can cause you to miss lots of opportunities. Here are my rules for when abandoning your sleep schedule is appropriate.

You’ve made a promise. If you told someone you were going to do something do it. No excuses. In an ideal world you would have finished it earlier, but if you were busy or decided to procrastinate do it now.

You’re working against a deadline. If you’ve got an urgent project that needs to be done for tomorrow do it. Obviously you should have put more effort into last minute panic prevention, but I understand life does get in the way and make it necessary on occasion.

You’ve got a prime opportunity. If you’ve got a good opportunity that you’ll only be able to capitalize on by abandoning your sleep pattern, capitalize on it. For example, I was able to nab an SETT invitation by staying awake an extra hour earlier this year.

That extra hour I spent awake may have made me feel a little drowsy the next day, but the benefits of switching my blog to SETT have made up for it many times over. This is a bit of an extreme example, of course, but the point is you shouldn’t be a slave to your sleep schedule.

When opportunity comes knocking, answer. You’ll have to decide yourself how big an opportunity has to be to stray from your sleep schedule, but the willingness to do so can pay off big time.

Socializing. I used to never go out at night because of my insistence of sticking to a strict sleep schedule. I’ve began loosening up on this over the last few months, however, and it’s been an awesome change.

In addition to giving me more flexibility in my social life, and receiving more invitations, I’ve also had lots of fun and gone on some awesome adventures. Similar to opportunities, this is another area where you have to decide your boundaries.

I’m willing to go out until 10 or 11 if I think something’s going to be a good time, but unless I expect it to be the best night of my life I’m unwilling to stay out past midnight or sleep over at someone’s house. You may have slightly different rules for yourself, but having an idea beforehand of how late you’re willing to stay out is extremely valuable.

You have a long flight or car ride (as a passenger) the next day. When my grandma lived in Arkansas we would drive down and visit her a couple times per year. I used to always deprive myself of a little sleep of the night before so I could sleep in the car.

Back then it was out of boredom, but you can also deprive yourself strategically. If you’ve got a long flight and you know you’re going to be sitting around all day you can wake up an hour or two early and get in your daily exercise before you leave. Alternatively, if you’re working on your social skills you can stay out a bit later the night before.

Intelligent sleep deprivation requires a conscious evaluation of the costs vs benefits of straying from your sleep schedule, but you’ll find that skipping out on a couple hours of sleep is often worth it. I still think maintaining a consistent sleep schedule is both important and beneficial, but I highly encourage you to try experimenting with your own sleep deprivation rules. There’s a lot of benefits to be gained and I guarantee you’ll be glad you did.

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